Posted in Life's Road on Friday, November 13, 2009|
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Sure been awhile since I have been here. Life got complicated. So much has happened in the meantime. But life goes on. Last Christmas was the happiest day for my family in quite a few years. We had our elderly extended family member staying with us. Oh, I moved back into the family home on Christmas eve bringing him with me. Sort of trying to sort my own life out and leaving my son in the unit to live life as an adult. We were all there for Christmas day and my sons put their sticks down (they constantly bicker) and we had a relaxing day. Not quite all the trimming associated with Christmas dinner as other have, but we did splurge a little and had some prawns and beers. That day will remain in my memory forever. Seeing excitement and hearing laughter, the simple things in life.
After that the new year just seemed to scream along, with one bad thing happening after another. My sons despression hit an all time low, I was tearing my hair out what to do. He was threatening physical harm to himself and others plus demolishing the place. I look back at it now and still think there was very little else I could do in the situation. On advice from a welfare worker friend I called the police. They came and took him to the hospital where he should have been assess mentally. However he was released within an hour to walk the streets. I questioned the doctor involved and he said he asked if he was going to hurt himself or anyone else and he answered “no”, so he had no reason to do any more. I can see from the doctors point of view, I suppose, but they don’t know anything about him, no medical files were even retreived from records. Of course my son is a master of telling the medical people what they want to hear. Has had plenty of practise. Now having a son in a low depressive state on the loose, well sent my already elevated stress levels through the roof. I looked everywhere and rang people to find him. He was missing for over a week, then turned up at his place one night and was sound asleep in bed when his girlfriend came home from work. She then rang me to let me know he was there. He was dirty but seemingly in ok condition, so we left him sleep. Still not sure to this day where he went or what he did, but I was just so relieved he was back.
Living life daily is draining. Sometimes I do wonder if it is all worth it. My best friend, soul-mate and support who was staying with us became quite ill. I never really contemplated, even though aging, 78 years old, could passaway on me until it was evident that it would happen. That certainly ripped apart the world I had built for myself. Finding being all alone trying to come to grips with everything that had made my world crash in. To me his death was sudden, but now I have had time to reflect, well, it wasn’t. Just too blind to see. In my mind he would live forever and always be there for me. I was so selfish to ever have thought that way. But I did. Everyday I still pang for his company, his wisdom. His auroa I suppose is the word I am looking for. Crazy I know, but I still talk to him in my mind, asking advice knowing I won’t get an answer, but maybe, just maybe I will be guided in my decisions by taking the time to do ask. Yeah, sometimes I think I am nuts. Sanity is beginning to settle even if I use insane ideas to bring the sanity. Talk about talking in circles. ~ more to come lol
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